Let’s Do This!
You will learn who Dear Aly is later. But first, are you in the right place…?
- Do you have kids?
- Are you married?
- Are you healing from any illness or injury (physical, mental, or both)?
- Ever thought about divorce or been divorced (more than once)?
- Ever thought about having an affair or had one (or more)?
- How about a conflict with a boss or coworker or considering quitting your job?
- Have you been abused as a child or an adult, or both?
- Have you ever abused someone you love or in your care?
Step out of secrecy, away from shame, and into the light. You will find love and wisdom here!
There is no new sin, pain, or trial. Others HAVE experienced what you are going through, and you are not alone!
You ask questions. Dear Aly will offer answers and provide resources. No question is too small or too big that cannot be shared and discussed.
- Do you have questions about raising littles or parenting?
- Do you help others but feel drained and like nothing you do is good enough?
- Do you find yourself in situations you know deep inside are wrong, but you are not sure who to talk to about it?
- Do you get confused, anxious, or depressed?
- Do you struggle with pain or fatigue?
- Are you frustrated in your relationships?
- Do you use substances or food, searching to fill the void in your soul?
- Do you live secretly, not telling anyone about habits, additions, or behavior patterns that keep you locked in shame cycles?
If you relate to any of these scenarios and are willing to take a step forward, this is the place for YOU!! Welcome to this destination point on your journey…
Dear Aly hopes to bring more awareness to the impact of trauma (deeply distressing or disturbing experience) on everything! We must improve our reactions toward healing so our relationships, schools, and workplaces can thrive! Taking steps towards a more fulfilling life can be challenging but also fun and rewarding. Let’s do this!
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My Expertise
I am a survivor, and I am thriving. I did not always think life was worth living as my whole adult life was spent recovering from complex developmental trauma. But on August 8, 2020, at 3:47 pm, I survived a serious motorcycle accident; God said, “Today she lives!” This new recovery journey coupled with what I learned before my accident has led me to use my story of living to help you live yours. Let’s do this together!
* Accidents * Illness * * Significant Loss *
Some escaped the perils of childhood trauma only to experience a life-threatening accident, illness, or loss later in life. Some experienced childhood trauma, but adulthood has unfolded primarily uncomplicated. Some experienced both. Here we will discuss life-threatening accidents, illnesses, or losses that occur in adulthood. How is childhood and adulthood trauma connected? What is the difference between how a child copes with trauma and how an adult copes with it?
Childhood Trauma
A happy and healthy childhood is necessary for children to achieve their full potential in adulthood. We have all experienced some form of childhood trauma. Was it life-threatening, and does everyone have PTSD? Certainly not. But we have all faced at least one deeply disturbing or distressing experience. The effect of trauma impacts individuals, families, cultures, and communities. It weighs heavy on the souls of us all. Dear Aly is a place to build the conversation around the subject of childhood trauma. Hopefully to connect with others who are having a similar conversation around the world. What are we doing to help children not have to survive but thrive?
*Marriage * Abuse* *Affairs * Divorce* *Raising kids*
Minor conflicts, unresolved pain, and emotional or physical reactions can turn a loving and caring relationship into a toxic nightmare. Addressing conflicts in your relationships is advisable before they get out of control and cause more distress, leading to trauma.
Does my childhood affect my marriage or intimate relationships? How come everything seemed so good, and now it’s not?”
Workplace Conflict or Stress
Keeping unresolved conflict and stress under wraps is not feasible or healthy. Share your story. Ask your questions, and Dear Aly can help mediate conflicts in your relationships or workplace.
It’s time to talk!
Who wants to admit to stress and conflict?!? No one…It’s normal to minimize stress (but not healthy). It takes trust to share your story and ask vulnerable questions. For those who survived childhood trauma, we often trust others before we trust ourselves, leading to more pain and hurt.
You will not have to share your name or identifying information on this website. We want you to share, get needed resources, and get the help you deserve.
We all need safety before we can grow. We need accurate information, an attentive listener, and guidance to help us take steps toward growth and maturity. Many of our parents could not provide healing responses to our distressing childhood experiences, so survival took on whatever form it needed to. We won’t blame parents; instead, we will assume everyone does the ABSOLUTE best, with what they know, at the time.
No one would hurt another if they knew the impact of the pain they were causing. Some will never accept that their behavior is painful or hurtful to others. We will begin with the belief that anyone hurting another was previously wounded. Their hearts block out love and light. The answer is forgiveness through Jesus. God can change anything at any time, Don’t ever stop praying for God’s love to intervene.
Contact Aly to ask questions, build awareness, or do conflict mediation in your home, business, or school district. Let’s make safer, trusting environments so we can survive and thrive together.
Share Your Story or Ask A Question!
Share your story from your perspective in the best way you can. Pose a question to help guide where you need guidance. If you wish to keep your name confidential, you can write only your initials on the contact form.